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Get the Judge to Like You When Representing Yourself!

When you are in divorce court, it’s always important that the judge likes you. However, it is crucial that the judge likes you if you are Pro Se, otherwise known as representing yourself in court. Not to discourage you, but many judges and court officials are biased against men who represent themselves in court, but this doesn’t have to be the case with you! Often, men will come in with misfiled or missing paperwork, have no idea what to say, and generally just look lost in the courtroom. This is not only a waste of the court’s time, but it will also hurt your case in the long run as no one will take you seriously.

But you can absolutely argue your case and win in court whether the judge likes you or not! However, you can make the process a whole lot easier if you do a few simple things to win the judge over right from the beginning, giving yourself an “edge”.

Be Prepared

It’s crucial that you are prepared for court before you ever step a foot into the courtroom. This means that you know when all your court dates are, you have all your paperwork properly filed, and you show up early. Not just on time, but early. Also, while this may seem frivolous, you also want to make sure that you dress the part as well. Wear a suit and make sure you look like you belong there. All of these factors shows the judge and all others involved that you know the rules of their “system” and you can successfully play by them. This will help the judge to take you seriously when they are weighing on the facts of your case.

Familiarize Yourself With The Court

This means that you know how the court procedures occur in the courtroom and you can properly respond when you are representing yourself. It is a good idea to go into a courtroom and watch other cases so you begin to understand the workings of the court before you have to go in yourself. It’s also a good idea to familiarize yourself with legal “jargon” or terms and phrases that you will encounter in court and in your paperwork. These are found in the back of our manual, The Fathers Rights Protection System, or in other places online.

While these factors won’t guarantee that you will win your case in court, they are important and necessary steps that will get you where you want to go. It’s important that the judge take you seriously right from the beginning so that you can get the edge that you need to win your case.

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