MEDIATION: HOW FATHERS
CAN SETTLE
CUSTODY AND CHILD SUPPORT DISPUTES WITHOUT GOING TO COURT " Mediation can be used to settle rather than go into the "non-user-friendly-anti-father" court system". |
Quite frankly, fathers will fare better through mediation, if both parties
are willing, rather than potentially being
screwed by the pro-mother court system. Although mediation can
be used quite effectively, it is important for
a father to know some basics about the process of mediation and arbitration.
It is safe to say, if a father is not
properly prepared, he may find himself thinking he has an agreement
with the "X"; but, come to find out that
once the "agreement" is placed on paper, the "whole deal" goes sideways.
Even worse, under the guise of
mediation and "good faith" settlement a father is "picked-off" one
item at a time, only to have the "X" be
disagreeable on the , "final", really important items. The typical
mediation process gets a father to agree to
items, one at a time, and usually leaves the really important items
until last. Then, all of a sudden the "X" won't
agree. Meanwhile, the father has already given up many important
things that might have given him leverage.
This manual explains the in’s and out’s of mediation and how to use
mediation and settlement techniques to
finalize things. The manual includes an explanation of the mediation
process, how to find a good mediator, what
actually happens during the mediation process, how to use mediation
together with court action to make the other
side settle, why litigation must stop, what information to disclose
during mediation, beginning the resolution
process, reaching an impasse, finalizing the agreement, the ingredients
of a successful negotiation, the "overview
negotiation method", a pretrial conference checklist, among many other
interesting topics.
- WHAT IS
MEDIATION?
- PLEASE
EXPLAIN THE MEDIATION PROCESS
- HOW LONG
WILL MEDIATION TAKE
- CRITERIA
FOR MEDIATION
- THE MOTIVATION
TO MEDIATE
- THE WILLINGNESS
TO DISAGREE
- THE WILLINGNESS
TO AGREE
- SELF-RESPONSIBILITY
HAS THREE PARTS:
- THE WILLINGNESS
TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF
- THE WILLINGNESS
TO AGREE
- MEDIATOR
NEUTRALITY
- POSITIVE
NEUTRALITY
- EXCEPTIONS
TO NEUTRALITY
- WHAT
ACTUALLY HAPPENS DURING THE MEDIATION PROCESS
- THE GROUND
RULES
- LITIGATION
MUST STOP
- DISCLOSURE
OF NECESSARY INFORMATION
- INFORMATION
OBTAINED DURING THE MEDIATION PROCESS
- ESTABLISHING
NEW INTERACTIONS
- GATHERING
INFORMATION
- WRITTEN
LISTS OF ASSETS
- CASH
FLOW
- FUTURE
PLANS
- BEGINNING
THE RESOLUTION PROCESS
- OPENING
THE LINES OF COMMUNICATION
- MOVING
BENEATH THE CONFLICT
- LIFE
DIRECTION
- MAKING
DECISIONS
- THE LAW
- FAIRNESS
- NEEDS
AND INTERESTS
- FUTURE
RELATIONS AFTER SEPARATION
- PRIOR
AGREEMENTS
- PERSONAL
BELIEFS
- FINANCIAL
AND ECONOMIC AGREEMENTS
- DEVELOPING
OPTIONS
- REACHING
AN IMPASSE
- FINALIZING
THE AGREEMENT
- AFFIRMING
WHAT HAS HAPPENED
- THE INGREDIENTS
OF A SUCCESSFUL NEGOTIATION?
- WHAT
DETERMINES WHEN YOU ARE PREPARED TO NEGOTIATE?
- WHICH
SUBJECTS SHOULD BE INCLUDED IN THE SETTLEMENT AGREEMENT AND HOW DO
I KNOW WHEN I HAVE REACHED A FAIR, NEGOTIATED, SETTLEMENT?
- DO WE
NEED LAWYERS IF WE MEDIATE?
- IS MEDIATION
FASTER OR LESS EXPENSIVE THAN THE NORMAL MANNER OF RESOLVING
DIVORCE DISPUTES?
- WHAT
ARE THE ADVANTAGES OR DISADVANTAGES OF MEDIATION?
- CAN ALL
CASES BE MEDIATED?
- OVERVIEW
NEGOTIATION METHOD
- PRETRIAL
CONFERENCE CHECKLIST
- LETTER
PROPOSING MEDIATION PRIOR TO COURT ACTION
Mediation can be used quite effectively by fathers to settle things
rather than go into the "non-user-
friendly", "anti-father", court system. Quite frankly, fathers
will fare far better through mediation, if both
parties are willing, rather than potentially being screwed by the pro-mother
court system. Although
mediation can be used quite effectively, it is important for a father
to know some basics about the process
of mediation and arbitration. i.e. if a father is not properly
prepared, he may find himself thinking he has
an agreement with the "X"; but, come to find out that once the "agreement"
is place on paper, the "whole
deal" goes sideways. Or, even worse, under the guise of mediation and
"good faith" settlement a father is
"picked-off" one item at a time, only to have the "X" be disagreeable
on the really important items. The
typical mediation process gets a father to agree to items, one at a
time, and usually leaves the really
important items until last. Then, all of a sudden the "X" won't agree.
Meanwhile, the father has already
given up important positioning.