ORDER NOW



 
MEDIATION: HOW  FATHERS CAN SETTLE
CUSTODY AND CHILD SUPPORT DISPUTES
WITHOUT GOING TO COURT
" Mediation can be used to settle rather than go into the "non-user-friendly-anti-father" court system".

Quite frankly, fathers will fare better through mediation, if both parties are willing, rather than potentially being
screwed by the pro-mother court system.  Although mediation can be used quite effectively, it is important for
a father to know some basics about the process of mediation and arbitration.  It is safe to say, if a father is not
properly prepared, he may find himself thinking he has an agreement with the "X"; but, come to find out that
once the "agreement" is placed on paper, the "whole deal" goes sideways. Even worse, under the guise of
mediation and "good faith" settlement a father is "picked-off" one item at a time, only to have the "X" be
disagreeable on the , "final", really important items.  The typical mediation process gets a father to agree to
items, one at a time, and usually leaves the really important items until last. Then, all of a sudden the "X" won't
agree.  Meanwhile, the father has already given up many important things that might  have given him leverage.
This manual explains the inís and outís of mediation and how to use mediation and settlement techniques to
finalize things. The manual includes an explanation of the mediation process, how to find a good mediator, what
actually happens during the mediation process, how to use mediation together with court action to make the other
side settle, why litigation must stop, what information to disclose during mediation, beginning the resolution
process, reaching an impasse, finalizing the agreement, the ingredients of a successful negotiation, the "overview
negotiation method", a pretrial conference checklist, among many other interesting topics.



 INTRODUCTION

     -    WHAT IS MEDIATION?
     -    PLEASE EXPLAIN THE MEDIATION PROCESS
     -    HOW LONG WILL MEDIATION TAKE
     -    CRITERIA FOR MEDIATION
     -    THE MOTIVATION TO MEDIATE
     -    THE WILLINGNESS TO DISAGREE
     -    THE WILLINGNESS TO AGREE
     -    SELF-RESPONSIBILITY HAS THREE PARTS:
     -    THE WILLINGNESS TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF
     -    THE WILLINGNESS TO AGREE
     -    MEDIATOR NEUTRALITY
     -    POSITIVE NEUTRALITY
     -    EXCEPTIONS TO NEUTRALITY
     -    WHAT ACTUALLY HAPPENS DURING THE MEDIATION PROCESS
     -    THE GROUND RULES
     -    LITIGATION MUST STOP
     -    DISCLOSURE OF NECESSARY INFORMATION
     -    INFORMATION OBTAINED DURING THE MEDIATION PROCESS
     -    ESTABLISHING NEW INTERACTIONS
     -    GATHERING INFORMATION
     -    WRITTEN LISTS OF ASSETS
     -    CASH FLOW
     -    FUTURE PLANS
     -    BEGINNING THE RESOLUTION PROCESS
     -    OPENING THE LINES OF COMMUNICATION
     -    MOVING BENEATH THE CONFLICT
     -    LIFE DIRECTION
     -    MAKING DECISIONS
     -    THE LAW
     -    FAIRNESS
     -    NEEDS AND INTERESTS
     -    FUTURE RELATIONS AFTER SEPARATION
     -    PRIOR AGREEMENTS
     -    PERSONAL BELIEFS
     -    FINANCIAL AND ECONOMIC AGREEMENTS
     -    DEVELOPING OPTIONS
     -    REACHING AN IMPASSE
     -    FINALIZING THE AGREEMENT
     -    AFFIRMING WHAT HAS HAPPENED
     -    THE INGREDIENTS OF A SUCCESSFUL NEGOTIATION?
     -    WHAT DETERMINES WHEN YOU ARE PREPARED TO NEGOTIATE?
     -    WHICH SUBJECTS SHOULD BE INCLUDED IN THE SETTLEMENT AGREEMENT AND HOW DO
           I KNOW WHEN I HAVE REACHED A FAIR, NEGOTIATED, SETTLEMENT?
     -    DO WE NEED LAWYERS IF WE MEDIATE?
     -    IS MEDIATION FASTER OR LESS EXPENSIVE THAN THE NORMAL MANNER OF RESOLVING
          DIVORCE DISPUTES?
     -    WHAT ARE THE ADVANTAGES OR DISADVANTAGES OF MEDIATION?
     -    CAN ALL CASES BE MEDIATED?
     -    OVERVIEW NEGOTIATION METHOD
     -    PRETRIAL CONFERENCE CHECKLIST
     -    LETTER PROPOSING MEDIATION PRIOR TO COURT ACTION



INTRODUCTION

Mediation can be used quite effectively by fathers to settle things rather than go into the "non-user-
friendly", "anti-father", court system.  Quite frankly, fathers will fare far better through mediation, if both
parties are willing, rather than potentially being screwed by the pro-mother court system.  Although
mediation can be used quite effectively, it is important for a father to know some basics about the process
of mediation and arbitration.  i.e. if a father is not properly prepared, he may find himself thinking he has
an agreement with the "X"; but, come to find out that once the "agreement" is place on paper, the "whole
deal" goes sideways. Or, even worse, under the guise of mediation and "good faith" settlement a father is
"picked-off" one item at a time, only to have the "X" be disagreeable on the really important items.   The
typical mediation process gets a father to agree to items, one at a time, and usually leaves the really
important items until last. Then, all of a sudden the "X" won't agree.  Meanwhile, the father has already
given up important positioning.



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